The Truth to the Lies You've Been Told:

1. You won't always get an overwhelming feeling of love when you see your partner.

2. If you get jealous that's fine, you just have to make sure you talk about it your partner and find a way that'll help you not feel that way anymore.

3. * Making a mistake in a relationship, such as: Yelling during a fight or acting possessive one time (by accident) doesn't automatically make it abuse.

For No. 3 you have to make sure of a few things to know if it is abuse:

1. If the person starts love-bombing you it's abusive or at the very least toxic.

2. They blame you instead of taking accountability.

3. They try to downsize your emotions

4. They gaslight you about it. (Ex; "that never happened.")

Now, let me remind people that it is really hard to identify what abusive or toxic when you're the one in that relationship. You're blinded by your love for that abusive person that you're more likely to let the things they do slide when they shouldn't. And it's hard to not feel guilty or blame yourself for things going wrong.

I just know, I was in an emotionally abusive relationship.