Okay so basically, I just wanted to say that you CANNOT compare your trauma to anyone else's. It's not okay, and never will be. You can't say "oh well my trauma was worse cause I was S/A'd" I'm sorry about that but it's not okay to compare it at all? Especially when someone's venting to you. Your trauma was not worse, their trauma was not worse, you both had bad trauma. And it's equally bad. You don't need to compare it to see which one has the worst trauma?? And it's also rude. Please don't walk up to someone and say "Oh, your life was like that? I've been through worse." It does not work like that at all. And please know that everyone else has feelings like you. | Conclusion: Don't compare trauma, and don't make anyone feel like theyre lower than you cause you "went through more".