I think its possible to define what is love, but not say how love is, for example, how i think it will be for me
What i mean is that, i can say that love is an unexplainable, strong emotion, that we can show and represent with actions, such as words, meaningful gifts, actions and physical touch.
But i cant say how love will be for me. I can set rules, boundaries in the relationship, but i cant define how love will be between me and someone else, because to say that there is an ocean of dept, of things that simply cannot be said, they need to be done, executed.
If i say that love should be a mix between words and actions, it still isnt necessarily, love for me, sure, it can be how love happens in my perspective, but nonetheless, it still is just an idealization, how i think it is, but that itself isnt love, because love, actually, just happens. Its not like something i can simply say that should be, its something that hasnt even happened because i havent even meet ny most important factor; the variable, because the way i flirt, the way i express my love for one isnt the same way another person does, were all different, and therefore, the way people give hints also changes, thats also why men generally are slower to pick up hints, because its something we arent expecting, we dont know how it will be nor tell what its actually meaning, or if it even is a flirt.
Instead of idealizing love, we can set our.. Criteria, our rights and wrongs, boundaries, generally in life, we can set virtues that actually matter for us. For example, for me, i value respect, sympathy, solidarity and knowledge. So technically speaking, if i was going to date someone, we would had to have our virtues the same, not necessarily like the same thing.
Anyways, enough of rambling about love. Im going to sleep. Good night, hope you have a blessed week
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