Idk if I've spoken about this before, but I thought I'd bring it up again (Or possibly the first time) because I felt like recalling it.

When I was about, I dunno, 4-15 I visited my dad for visitation, since my parents had split up since I was literally 8 months old. Long story turned short, he was an abusive, heavy catholic prick, who shit talked my mum behind her back to me, saying shit like, "C'mon cut your nails, you don't want em' disgusting and long like your mums!" (My mum's nails are fantastic fyi), "Your mum took you away from me, thats why you don't live with us." Stuff like that. He was also incredibly.. how do I put this, aggressive.

Think of a pitbull. Now imagine it uglier, British, and 5x louder. That's my dad. He swore to god he was Catholic whilst sinning 10x every day (I'm not sure but its probably a sin to abuse your wife, just a guess /s). He wasn't homophobic necessarily, his brother was gay, but he was very.. gender conforming. Y'know, the type of stuff like "You're a man, you can't cry", that shit, the literal opposite of what my mum did (Which was literally just "where what you want, have your nails how you want, aslong as you don't fall out of a tree and crack your skull" type of mum. Lovely, really.).

As you can PROBABLY imagine, him trying to make me "manlier" and manlier (even trying to tell me that me, referring to my last name as my mum's maiden name, not his last name, was a crime and she would go to JAIL), sort of stalled me coming out as trans. I knew since I was probably 12, but since I wasn't old enough to stop contact, couldn't do jack shit. Came out as bisexual at 13, just not to him, but couldn't do anything about it. So, sorta pretending he supported whilst saying that you can't date men or I'd be dead to him. Fabulous support.

He had a temper, yelled aggressively when I DARED to disagree, which lead to me not disagreeing with anything he said. Called gay people a slur infront of me? Not a fuckin word because I was quite literally fearful of him. Couldn't prove jackshit, so couldn't stop visitation until I was older. He went thru like 5 girlfriends and brought them to see me (ngl some of them were nice, which is probably why they broke up with him ), because "When you get older, you need to get one" like they were an XBOX.

Jokes on him because now I haven't seen him in a year and I'm fabulous as fuck LMAO.

That's all. Homophobia and bigotry is still very alive, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, you're loved, even if you don't feel like it, and you should be treated as such. <3

Oh, also- fuck you Andrew. Hope a snake bites your shrimp dick off.