introduction

yesterday i made the discovery that nixom has returned under a new alias: Ephexon. if you're unaware of what nixom has done, check my previous post. i initially wanted to just blatantly call him out, but i was told to just "let it go". so what i did instead was add him on discord and try to go about things differently.

he admitted that it was in fact him under a new name. instead of just outright confronting him about things, i spent 2 hours trying to reason with him. i really did try to see things from his perspective, and tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. i believe that people can change, and for a while, i had convinced myself that maybe he was capable of changing as well.

Ephexon confirming that he is nixom.

however, as the conversation went on, i began catching onto multiple defense mechanisms that he was using to justify things. i wanted to believe that he could change, but the constant deflecting and avoidance of blame was telling me that he is still the same person. these are things that need to be discussed with a therapist, which i suggested numerous times, but he refused and instead insisted that he had "fixed" his problems on his "own terms". but this was not the case.

nixom claiming that he has fixed his problems on his own terms

suppression

"suppression" is when someone intentionally blocks things out from their memory, hiding their emotions, and as i explained it to him, "bottling them up". instead of addressing or facing emotions or events head on, someone who suppresses their past is actively avoiding it, often to dodge blame or as an attempt to cover things up. throughout our conversation, i saw various examples of this; and by attempting to change his identity, nixom is actively suppressing his past actions.

nixom suppressing his emotions and actions by blocking them out and bottling up his feelings

rationalization

"rationalization" is when a person attempts to cover up their behavior by coming up with excuses. rationalization often involves reassuring oneself, and while that can be healthy, it can also be used to deflect guilt and avoid uncomfortable confrontations. one of nixom's rationalizations is him telling himself that he's changed, just because he hasn't repeated what he did in the past. additionally, he rationalizes by blaming me for his actions instead of owning up to them.

nixom coming up with excuses to avoid taking blame; mainly to avoid the fact that he needs therapy

denial

"denial" is the refusal to accept facts, or the refusal to accept real events. nixom refuses to accept his actions, and how they affected other people. he claims that by changing his persona, he's a different person, and believes that he shouldn't be held accountable for what he did.

nixom denying that changing his persona is covering up his actions

projection

"projection" is the act of shifting uncomfortable feelings onto others, or blaming others for their own behaviors. nixom does this by blaming his emotions on me. he believes that i'm the reason that he's miserable, and blames me for how he is treated, even though it was his own actions that got him in this situation.

nixom projecting by blaming me for his actions, and for how others perceive him

other notes

i again want to stress that nixom (or Ephexon, or Blazenov, or any of his other aliases) is a dangerous person. he has shown time and time again that he is incapable of changing, and instead opts to cover up and avoid his past, shift blame onto others, deny the facts, and refuse to seek professional help.

throughout our conversation, nixom deliberately chose wording that showed that he doesn't believe that he's in the wrong. here are some examples:

"While what i did seemed serious and was at my own fault, i know what i am and what i am not."

"...i've already fixed the internal issues that led to people's image of me being a pedo or whatever other weird shit you label me as..."

"...people in public will likely say i'd never be able to [change] because of a narrative you pushed onto me."

"...i'm tired of pretending that i will or need help for what others assume as Pedophilia..."

"...you made the world out me as something i am not."

he hasn't changed, he just tells himself that he's changed. he believes that he can just get away with this and not face the consequences. this behavior is unhealthy, immature, and unacceptable. nixom, i truly hope that one day you can finally open up to a therapist about this, because that is the only way you'll be able to find solace.

conclusion

the reason i made this post is not to attack nixom, but to inform others that he is still around and to prove that he has not changed. specifically, i want to make sure that @Spaz0n , or anyone else who works with him is aware of exactly who he is. i also want the dormitabis community to be aware of this, since that's where he initially caused problems.

to close things off, here is a direct quote from nixom which absolutely shocked me when he sent it to me:

"I am not going to seek some fucking therapy for something i did online where everyone is anonymous and can lie without repercussions."

really take some time and think about that one.

thanks.

-joe