Because to define, is to be strict, and a good definition is the one that can apply to many comprehensive situations. So, when you say that youre worthless, that youre stupid and deserve no love, this isnt you, nor when you tell thyself that youre an idiot because you didnt say x thing in the past or y thing to an certain discussion that frankly, doesnt even matter anymore, because past is past, the now is what matters, anyways the point is none of what has been said defines you, you arent stupid or worthless, because as a whole, you are a being, a person, and one single action cant comprehend your entire being, because one choice is not you, is an single thing that happened, to define you we would need to take all of your actions and choices in your entire life, to get your entire personality, your ethics and others, so, for example, Rachel Zagler, that actor who played Snow White, the live action, she had a choice to participate or not in the movie, and she chose to be in it, but that for itself wasnt the reason she was hated immensily, the many other things she said were the reason, the thing she said about the original cartoon in an interview and in many others lead to an sick hate from the population. Thing is, she was only hated by the mass of people because 1- shes an famous actor and 2- she was taking part in one of the biggest companies, Disney, so if she acted poorly, it wasnt going to be a small money lost and 3- on the internet, rage is the main thing that keeps people engaged with it, specially on twitter and any other platform, so to have a spotlight on a film like that and have tons of controversies around you, unnevitably, lead to an massive overhate,and twitter is full of insane people who dont know the line between fun, healthy mockery ane unhealthy mockery that cant even be called mockery.

Either way, i wanted to make this example of her case because one thing you do wont make the whole world come down on you killing like crazy, after all, we arent famous like Rachel Zagler or something, we are simole people, so sure, i know how ashamed you might feel when you mess up with someone you love, but everything is gradual, dont focus on blaming yourself, but look at the mistake and instead, learn from it, think about not doing it again, and actually saying sorry for the person you hurt, try talking, and most importantly, know that the error isnt the end of the world, msitakes are made, we are all sinners and we will come back to the tempting sins, we are human and in our condition, we need to find the balance between knowing your limits and pushing yourself to doing what you know you need to fo